Myend Messages — sometimes called Goodbye Messages — let you write letters, record videos, or record audio for the specific people in your life, ready to be delivered after you’re gone. They’re not sent until the moment your passing is confirmed, so you can write, revisit, and rewrite them for as long as you’re here.
A message stays completely private. No one — not even your Legacy Contacts — can read, watch, or listen to it before it’s delivered, and your Legacy Contacts never see its contents even when they’re the one who releases it.
Three ways to say it
Myend supports three message formats, so you can choose whichever feels most like you:
- Text — a written letter.
- Video — a recorded message.
- Audio — a voice recording.
To start a message, add a contact from your contact list (or add a new one), give it a positive subject, and choose a format. Justine can help you set up the envelope — who it’s for, the subject, and when it should be delivered — but you write or record the actual content yourself, privately, in the form.
Most people find the blank page the hardest part. A few things that help:
- Start with the person who’s easiest to write to — momentum helps.
- Write as if you were speaking to them directly.
- Be authentic rather than formal — this doesn’t need to sound like a letter.
- Say what you’d want them to know: express love, share a memory, offer some wisdom, address anything left unsaid, and let them know you’re at peace.
Tailoring a message to who it’s for
- Children — share wisdom, express pride, leave advice for milestones you won’t be there for.
- A spouse or partner — express love, share favorite memories, offer comfort.
- Parents — express gratitude, share what they meant to you.
- Friends — recall shared moments, thank them for being part of your life.
You’re not writing to just one person, either — most people leave messages for several: children, a spouse, parents, close friends, even future grandchildren. Write as many as you want; they all live in your plan until it’s time.
Write to your Legacy Contacts, too
It’s worth writing at least one message to your Legacy Contacts — the people you’ve trusted to carry out your wishes. They’re doing something hard on your behalf, and a personal note of thanks, or any last instructions, can mean a lot while they’re handling everything else.
Choosing when a message is delivered
After you finish a message, you choose when it goes out. There are three delivery options:
- Direct — sent as soon as your passing is confirmed.
- Trustee-timed — your Legacy Contact decides the right moment.
- Chosen date — you pick a specific date in the future, like a birthday or an anniversary.
Direct — as soon as you’re gone
Messages set to deliver directly go out once your passing has actually been confirmed — not on a guess. Myend verifies this through your Proof of Life check-ins: if you stop responding to your scheduled check-ins, Myend first sends gentle reminders, and if those go unanswered it escalates to notifying your Legacy Contacts. Your Legacy Contacts then gain access using their Access Key together with email verification, once your Proof of Life check-ins have lapsed — access is only granted once all three line up. That’s the moment your “direct” messages are released. If a message carries instructions your family needs quickly, direct delivery is usually the right choice.
Trustee-timed — let your Legacy Contact decide
Some messages land better a little later — not the day of, but whenever your Legacy Contact judges it’s the right moment. Choosing this option puts that timing in their hands. They can see that a message exists and who it’s for, but never what it says — the content stays strictly private, even from the person releasing it.
Chosen date — you decide, in advance
With Myend, you stay in control of your own decisions. Set a message to release on a specific future date — days, months, or years out — for moments like a birthday, a wedding, or another milestone you want to speak into even though you won’t be there for it.
Keep your messages up to date
Your messages aren’t locked in the moment you write them. People, relationships, and thoughts change over the years — you can go back and edit or rewrite any message at any point while you’re able to.
Messages are part of your Myend plan. On the Free plan, Justine helps you get your first directive and contacts started with a 10-document vault to browse everything Myend offers. From Starter onward, Messages are included as part of your full plan — private on your device with PDF export, exportable anytime. On Complete, automatic cloud sync keeps everything backed up too, so nothing is at risk of being lost with a lost phone.
So don’t leave without saying goodbye — start with one message, to the person easiest to write to, and build from there.