With Myend Messages, you can write, record, and store personal messages for the people you’re leaving behind — to be delivered exactly when and how you choose.
👉 Not sure how it works? Check this article for an explanation of the Messages feature and the role of a Legacy Contact.
Leaving a message for your loved ones can offer them real support in the time after your passing. Alongside the practical instructions and wishes you’d typically put in a will, a message lets you speak to someone directly — in your own words, in your own voice. That way your loved ones don’t just know what to do on a practical level; they also feel supported on an emotional one.
Written letter, video, or audio recording
A message doesn’t have to be a written letter. You can leave a written message, record a video, or record an audio message — whichever feels most natural for what you want to say and how you want to be remembered saying it. Some people find a video or voice recording easier than writing, and it lets the person hearing it feel like you’re speaking directly to them.
What do I say?
Most people find it difficult to get started. At Myend we usually advise people to start with the following: Who, Why, What, How, and When.
To begin, think of Who you will send this message to. This can form the introduction to your letter.
Hi Anna, As your mother, I cannot leave without saying goodbye to the greatest gift life has ever given me: my wonderful daughter.
Then, think of your Why. It might seem obvious why you’re writing the message — as a goodbye for once you’re gone — but naming it offers structure and clarity. Something like:
I want to say goodbye in this way, in case we won’t have the chance in real life. If that’s indeed what happened, I want you to know that’s okay. We’ve lived so many moments together, and in the end that’s what matters most.
As for your What: this can be anything, but start with what you really don’t want to leave unsaid — that should be the core of your message. You can write specific memories or anecdotes, name characteristics of the other person that you admire, or offer advice for their life ahead, for instance:
I’ve always admired your lust for life. You’re a dreamer, and I know you can succeed in your dreams if you believe in yourself. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise as you get older.
Then for your How: it can help to use a simple outline — introduction, body, conclusion. As for tone of voice: try to write (or speak) as if in a friendly letter, keeping in mind your recipient won’t have the chance to reply. In these messages you can share your unspoken thoughts, so be honest. Offer emotional support — this can be comforting and positive too, for instance:
I know right now you feel a lot of pain. I wish I was there to help you through it. And… maybe in a way I am. I’ll always be with you, in your mind and in your heart. So you can be strong and live a happy life.
Ideas by recipient
If you’re not sure where to start, it can help to think about what matters most for the specific person you’re writing to:
- For children — share wisdom, express pride in who they are and who they’re becoming, and leave advice for milestones you may not be there for.
- For a spouse or partner — express love, revisit favorite shared memories, and offer comfort for the road ahead.
- For parents — express gratitude and share what they meant to you.
- For friends — recall shared moments and thank them for what they brought to your life.
If you’re planning messages for more than one person, start with whoever feels easiest to write to. Writing that first message tends to make the next one easier.
When to send your messages
After finishing a message, you choose when it will be delivered. You have three options:
- Directly after you have passed away
- Let your Legacy Contact decide the right moment
- Select a specific date yourself — for example a birthday or anniversary
Your Legacy Contact is the trusted person who can access your finalized messages after you’re gone. Access only unlocks once your identity and passing have been verified — through your Access Key, email verification, and your Proof of Life check-ins lapsing — so nothing is ever released by accident while you’re alive.
Lastly, Myend lets you keep your messages up to date. You can revisit, edit, or add to what you’ve written at any point — during your life you might change your mind, make new memories, or simply want to say something differently.