Last Goodbye — End of Life Planning

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Saying goodbye to a loved one is always hard. Especially when you say your last goodbye. Questions such as how to say goodbye to a friend or how to say goodbye forever have always intrigued us all. It’s about the feeling of closure that you get – or in this case you offer someone.

Why is closure important?

Closure is important after someone passes away because it allows the person left behind to move forward with their life.

It’s important to have a sense of closure after someone passes away because it helps you process what happened and start moving on. When you don’t have that closure, it can be hard to move forward with your life.

Closure also provides a sense of security for the people who are left behind. They will know that there is nothing more they could have done or should have done, and they can rest assured that everything happened as it should have.

Imagine being able to offer all that to your loved ones!

You should follow your loved one's last wishes

When you inherit a home from someone, you might not be able to keep everything inside it.

The first thing you’ll need to do is carefully read through the deceased person’s Will and Estate Plan. If there are any statements about charity or giving specific items to family members, you’ll need to carry out those wishes.

Note: It’s simple. You don’t have to stop your clean-out process to do this step, just set aside items in a separate area or storage unit while you finish the clean-out.

How do you say goodbye forever?

Goodbye’s the saddest word in the English language. It’s also one of the most important. No matter how much you love someone, or how close you are to them, there will come a time when you have to say goodbye.

You can’t always be with your loved ones. Sometimes life gets in the way and we are separated by distance, or even death. But there are ways to say goodbye before you die that can help both parties cope with this difficult situation.

Here are some tips for saying goodbye forever before you die.

Talk about it

Don’t wait until you’re on your deathbed to have this conversation with your loved ones; start talking about it now! It can be awkward, but if you approach the subject with compassion and understanding (and a sense of humor), you’ll find it easier to open up about what each of you expect from each other in those last moments. And if someone else has already died? Reach out to them through letters or stories—they’ll be glad they left instructions behind.

Make memories

Have fun while you’re still healthy enough to enjoy yourself! If you’ve got time left on this planet, spend it doing something meaningful with the people closest to you—whether that means getting into nature together or taking an adventure across town or even just sitting around watching TV together.

What if you have no time to make memories? Or if you aren’t great with sharing your feelings directly with someone. How do you say your last goodbye to a loved one then? A farewell to a friend? These are questions that haunt us all. But what if there was a way to say goodbye, even after we’re gone?

Myend offers just that—a way to make sure you can say your final goodbyes, even from beyond the grave.

Myend, My Last Goodbyes

With Myend messages, you can compose and store messages for the people you leave behind. To be specific, messages are archived in your personal e-will where they remain unsent until the moment you have passed away. You can compose as many messages as you want to anyone in your contact list and store them in your Myend e-will.

Most people find it difficult to get started. To begin, think of a positive subject title and to whom you will send this message. Simply add a contact from your contact list or add a new contact when starting a message.

Try to write a friendly letter as your recipients will not have the chance to reply. Some people may write down their personal instructions to a certain person. In these messages, you can send them your unspoken thoughts or ask them to grant your final wishes.

Keep your messages up-to-date – add or change your thoughts or instructions. During the lifecycle you might change your mind, so we give you an option to update your messages by archiving and editing them in case this happens.

Write to your Legacy Contacts

It’s advisable to write at least one message to your Legacy Contacts to give them clear instructions. After all, you have asked them for help after passing away. It would be helpful to them while carrying out your final wishes.

When to send this message?

After finishing a message, you have to decide when it will be sent.

You have three options:

  • Directly after you have passed away
  • Let your Legacy Contact decide
  • Select a date yourself

Directly when I’m gone

Messages archived as “directly when I’m gone” are sent after Myend receives a verified notification from both of your Legacy Contacts. Before taking any actions, Myend sends a message to your email account and mobile phone to ask if you’re still alive. Once we get no confirmation within a set time frame, your Myend account will be activated for Legacy Contacts. This activation will trigger your messages to be sent.

If you have a message with instructions it should be sent out as soon as possible. Make sure to select the “directly when I’m gone” option that will ensure you your contact will be informed directly.

Let my Legacy Contact decide

For some messages it’s better not to have them sent out directly after you’re gone, but preferably a few days later, for instance. If you choose to let your Legacy Contacts decide, they will be sent once your Legacy Contact finds it most appropriate. Even if a Legacy Contact forgets or holds off on sending out your messages, they will always be sent in the end. After 6 months, all remaining messages are sent automatically to make sure you don’t leave without saying goodbye.

Your Legacy Contact can decide on the actual moment to send your message, but they will not be able to see the content of it. In other words, your message will remain strictly personal.

Let me select a date

It’s Myend, so you are in control of your own decisions. Set a moment in days, months or a specific date in the future. It all depends on the type of message you wish to send. You might consider sending someone a message on a special date in the future.

So, start writing your messages and make sure not to leave without saying goodbye! 😇

Final Thoughts

It’s never too late to say your last goodbyes. And now with Myend you can do it literally from beyond the grave. After all, farewell messages are a big part of any serious end of life service. We here at Myend know the importance of end of life planning that’s why we designed all of our products around this principle. Check out our end of life planning checklist above for a free helping hand.

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